The Human Magnet Syndrome: Why We Love People Who Hurt Us (2013)
By Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC
Reviewed by Angie Mangino
Rating: 5 stars
Why do we love people who hurt us?
In this book about emotional manipulators, codependents, and dysfunctional relationships, the author presents a well-documented search for the answer.
“The bond created by perfectly matched ‘human magnets’ is interminably powerful, binding two lovers together despite consequences or shared unhappiness. In a codependent and emotional manipulator relationship, this magnetic force will likely create a long-term dysfunctional relationship. Conversely, with healthy romantic partners, the Human Magnet Syndrome results in relationships that are empowering, affirming and mutually-satisfying.”
Readers may become uncomfortable in the parts of this book where they may recognize themselves or their partners, but it is only in the understanding that one can grow to determine the direction of one’s choices in life.
By the author’s sharing with readers a better understanding of the dynamics at work in relationships, his purpose is to offer hope for individuals to find “true love,” rather than “true dysfunction.”
With glimpses into his own life, the author’s practical and approachable writing offers that hope.
Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC